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Another Year Older, Wiser, and Starting Over (Again)

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Hellooo Hooters!

Today happens to be the GREATEST day of all time- June 27th! Cheers to another year older, wiser, and starting over (again)! Finally, my New Year is here yet again- Happyyyy Birthdayyyy to meeee! 

Goodness, I have managed to survive yet another year of this “Life thing” and I’m honestly not sure how to feel about it. Overall, the greatest part about today is the fact that I’m finally able to fully reset my entire life. If you know me, then you know that I don’t celebrate January 1st as a “New Year” for me, but instead my actual birthday. I use June 27th for my New Year’s resolutions, cleanse, and overall self-improvement. 

Being able to reset on my birthday is important to me because I can reflect on my past year and observe where I need to improve, see where I went wrong, where I lost motivation, etc. In my previous post, I wrote about getting back on track and this is exactly what I meant by that. A fresh start at least gets me going on the right path and I always try to keep in mind- a good habit becomes most effective after 21 days. No matter what goals I set, I try my best to force myself to complete them for at least 21 days. 

Just like any other year, this year has been hectic and I’ve faced numerous challenges and exciting moments throughout it. The first six months I decided to let go of alcohol and I’m proud to say that I succeeded greatly. Halfway through the first six months, I gave the 75 Hard challenge a try and somewhat succeeded for the most part. My most creative task for my last year was to create a “Random Thoughts of 32” thread in my Notes app. I seriously can’t wait to share that in a future post. That is where I shared some of my hardest, darkest, and transparent moments in my life throughout the year. 

This last year I also considered and started new beginnings, repaired or tightened broken relationships, fell in love with a new hobby, explored Faith, and more. Of course, throughout my sharing my journey, I’ll be reflecting on the biggest setbacks I faced. I’m choosing to share my setbacks because I’m an honest person and if I can’t be transparent or real with my supporters- what’s the point of this blog right? 

My goals for this year would probably consist of the continuation of improving myself physically, financially, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, etc. I plan on blogging more and enhancing my overall content. Improving more relationships with my loved ones would be ideal- I’ll try not to be too pressed about that. Exploring faith on a deeper level would also be a goal. And then lastly, I’ll be focusing more on completing a few goals I started within the last year- very excited about that! 

Overall, I’m excited about my new beginning and a reset of life. I’m excited to overcome the challenges I may face and hope to deal with them accordingly. I’m excited to work on myself across the board. I’m extremely excited to accomplish the goals I’ve been working on. I’m excited about my upcoming vision for this blog. I’m just excited to succeed. This next chapter of life will be great and I’m claiming it. 

Much Love, Hooters,

-Cherry and the Hoot

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Summer Beach Calming Activities: Summer Mental Wellness

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Summer is just about here, and while the season brings sunshine and longer days, many of us are still navigating our mental health journeys. The good news? There’s a therapeutic place waiting for us- the beach. With its soothing waves, open skies, and calming energy, it offers the perfect setting to slow down and reconnect. It’s a sacred space to pause, breathe, and come back to yourself. If you’re craving peace this season, these summer beach calming activities are a gentle invitation to relax your inner calm… one mindful moment at a time.

1. Walking Along the Shoreline
-Take off your shoes and stroll where the water meets the sand. Feel each step, listen to the rhythm of the waves, and let your mind drift. This barefoot walk will help ground you and quiet inner noise.

2. Drawing or Writing in the Sand
-Use your finger or a stick to create messages, doodles, or mandalas in the sand. Let the waves eventually wash them away as a symbol of releasing what no longer serves you.

3. Beach Breathing Meditation
-Sit or lie comfortably on the sand. Breathe in as the wave comes in and then breathe out as it flows out. Match your breath to the tide to create a calming rhythm that quiets anxiety and recenter your focus.

4. Listening to Seashells
-Place a shell to your ear and listen. This simple act can bring you back to the current moment. Use it as a grounding ritual- a reminder to pause and truly hear what’s around and within you.

5. Watching the Waves
-Find a comfortable spot and do nothing but watch the waves rise and fall. Let each wave carry away tension. This quiet watching helps you become more aware, more still, and more at peace.

6. Beach Picnic with Mindful Eating
-Bring something light and refreshing like fruits, iced tea, sandwiches, etc., and eat slowly as you focus on flavors, smells, and textures. Enjoy each bite with gratitude while listening to the ocean nearby.

7. Gentle Beach Yoga or Stretching
-Roll out a towel or mat and stretch slowly. Try child’s pose, seated twists, or deep breathing postures. The ocean breeze and natural sounds enhance relaxation as your body unwinds.

8. Stargazing by the Shore
-Visit the beach after sunset. Lay back on a towel or blanket and look up. Let the stars remind you how expansive and beautiful life can be. This is a great time for slow breathing or silent reflection.

9. Ocean-Inspired Journaling
-Bring a notebook and write near the water. Reflect on how the sea mirrors your emotions- always moving, sometimes stormy, always returning to calm. Use prompts like, “What do I need to let go of today?”

10. Writing a Message and Letting It Go
-Write a thought, memory, or emotion you’re ready to release- in your journal or directly in the sand. Then let it go. Watch the tide carry it away. It’s a symbolic, gentle form of emotional release.

Each of these summer beach calming activities offers a small, sacred moment of peace and sometimes, that’s exactly what we need. Whether you spend five minutes or five hours, let the ocean remind you that calm is always available. No matter which activity you decide to do, always remember to “Live a Little” while doing so.

Much Love Hooters,
-Cherry and the Hoot

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Connecting with Nature and the Present: National Day of Unplugging

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When? March 1st

In today’s world, most of us tend to be drowned by the content and entertainment of our electronic devices. Our environment is overly crammed with smartphones or watches, tablets, laptops, gaming consoles, and televisions- constantly checking for notifications, emails, and social media updates. We’ve become so preoccupied with these devices that we haven’t noticed the harmful effects they’ve possibly brought upon our mental and physical health. Many of us have become so distracted we’ve forgotten the importance of disconnecting from our gadgets to explore the great outdoors or focus on the “Now.”

Putting the devices away and getting outdoors in nature helps reduce stress and anxiety while improving our mood and cognitive function. Spending time in nature can have a positive effect on your overall well-being. You can enjoy the outdoors by simply sitting in the sun on your porch- add a book to read for some razzle-dazzle. Try a walk around your neighborhood or find a nice trail in a park to explore. If you want to challenge yourself and live near mountains, go hiking to enjoy an adventurous and peaceful journey.

While being outdoors is just one example of positively replacing our technology consumption, there are plenty of other ways to disconnect and remember the value of the present moment. National Today suggests placing your devices in a box for 24 hours, volunteering in your community for the day, or throwing a dance party (a bit drastic, but it’s supposed to boost your mood). The point is to put away the electronics and use the time to be more aware of the “Now.”

Lastly, detaching from electronic devices is beneficial to our mental health. A sense of anxiety and stress can make it difficult to relax and enjoy some of your greatest moments due to constantly checking your social media, emails, text messages, etc. Taking a break from your devices can improve your mental health and reduce your stress levels by allowing you to focus on the present moment.

If the suggestions listed are not for you, find something that suits you and your interests. Maybe try folding those clothes that have been sitting in the laundry basket for days, work on that DIY project you’ve been holding off on for weeks, or even visit one of your favorite restaurants and enjoy a meal without electronic distractions. This day of unplugging may very well be a challenge for most of us. If you aren’t fully capable of disconnecting- reduce your usage and gradually decrease with time. Take a break from technology and engage with your surroundings to appreciate the simple joys of life!

Good Luck, Hooters!
-Cherry and the Hoot

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Observing National Develop Alternative Vices Day

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National Develop Alternative Vices Day is all about ridding yourself of your heavily bad and unhealthy habits. Those habits include but are not limited to excessively drinking coffee or alcohol, chain-smoking, consuming drugs, over-eating, gambling, and overindulging on television, phone, or social media use. Sure, there are plenty of other examples, but these tend to be the most obvious. Alleviating yourself from these habits and replacing them with healthier activities is the best way to observe this day. Challenging yourself to let go of these weaknesses for at least one day is ideal. Who knows, maybe you’ll be able to change these habits for a lifetime and enhance your lifestyle and overall mental health in the long run.

The least you can do is give it a try and see how that works out for you. If you consume a lot of coffee, unhealthy food, alcohol, or drugs, replace them with plenty of water and healthy fruits/foods. Pick up a good book or write down your deepest thoughts in a journal if you need a break from social media, your phone, or the television. Take a quick walk when you feel the urge to want to smoke. Spend some extra time with your family and friends. Indulge in your favorite hobby or try to discover a new one that won’t involve a negative impact on your life. Long story short- all bad habits have healthier and more productive alternatives, give them a try. For more ideas on positive alternatives check out the Positive Coping Skills blog post. Best of luck to you Hooters, as always, I’m rooting for you to be the best YOU! Enjoy your new clean habits and remember to “Live a Little” while doing so.

Much Love Hooters,

-Cherry and the Hoot

Source: National Today

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National Cerebral Palsy Awareness Month: The Miracle Baby

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March is a month of many national celebrations and awarenesses; Cerebral Palsy (CP) happens to be one of those national awarenesses. Cerebral Palsy is a congenital disorder of movement, muscle tone, balance, or posture. It’s a life-long disorder that impacts areas such as one’s motor and developmental skills; some with the diagnosis are significantly visibly affected, while others are more fortunate. In honor of CP, I’d like to give a brief shoutout to one of my favorite siblings, Janiece, also known as “Lady Lucky.” Janiece was welcomed into this world sooner than expected in September 2000 as a premature baby born at 1lb 2oz. She was so tiny she could fit comfortably in the palm of one’s hand. Unfortunately, after birth, my parents were told by the doctor Janiece would not live to make it through the night. Today, I’m happy to announce that my Lady Luck is 21 years old and is brighter, stronger, healthier, and more motivated than ever!

Since this month focused on happiness, I wanted to introduce the world to Janiece because she is extraordinarily special to me and helps to contribute to my joy with her presence. She is such an inspiring individual, and when I think about giving up, she motivates me to keep aiming for the top! Sometimes we as people take the simple things in life for granted, but Janiece shows me that all things are possible. Therefore, I share her with you all to inspire those who need inspiration. Although her disorder limits a lot for her, she sees past those limits and pushes herself to accomplish her goals. I’m beyond thankful for Janiece and look forward to seeing what the future holds.

*A special Thank You to Virginia’s Children’s Hospital of the King’s Daughter (CHKD) for saving my sister’s life. She is a miracle baby and the greatest gift to my family.

Much Love Hooters,

-Cherry and the Hoot

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Focus on Your True Happiness

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Happiness is the state of being happy, and it can be associated with joy or satisfaction during the present moment or overall life circumstances. One’s happiness can come from another individual, a particular place, material things, foods, achievements, and everything else that makes people happy. But, while some may appear satisfied, are they or are they settling for what they think is happiness?

Lately, I have had a few individuals express that they aren’t happy with certain things; they have been experiencing family or relationship complications, hate their job, aren’t satisfied with their appearance, or their financial situation isn’t ideal. In addition, they feel their accomplishments of life are slacking or something else keeping them from enjoying themselves, such as lack of physical energy or even ambition. Yet, no matter what they may be going through, I still try my best to encourage and motivate them to be the best they can be. Regardless of what anyone believes, life is life, and as long as one is breathing, you have the remainder of your life to accomplish the things you want most out of it. Sure, it can seem like it is taking forever to find happiness again, but it is there- one must seek it.

Honestly, I believe true happiness lies within oneself, starting with self-love. How are you treating yourself and your well-being? How often are you celebrating your current accomplishments to remind yourself you can achieve the things you put your mind to? Have you ever taken a moment to sit down and brainstorm about what truly makes you happy? What about questioning your current state of happiness? Seriously, are you genuinely satisfied with your life? Self-love is key because how can you expect others or materialistic things to bring you something you can’t feel within yourself? Start with yourself, and everything else will come with ease. Learn to stop doubting and being hard on yourself because if you do not believe in yourself, who will?

Relationships with others can seem like a roller coaster at times. Each relationship, friendship, or “situationship” has its ups and downs, but never entertain one that offers more downs than ups. Let it go if it affects your overall mental health or happiness! That goes for family members, childhood friends, close friends, significant long-term others, etc. Life is too short to allow others to affect our happiness. If those close to us can not respect our boundaries, what we want out of life, or our time, they don’t deserve a space in our lives. Do not allow others to drain you of your peace and happiness. Do not allow others to make you feel wrong about what you enjoy doing or find interest in. Do not allow others to make you feel a certain way about things because they are unhappy with themselves. Be happy being who you are, do what you love, live a little while doing so, and be safe. Often people get caught up in these relations and begin to lose themselves because they’re constantly trying to please others. They forget the things that once made them happy, and they grow to settle. Do not settle or lose yourself for the satisfaction of others. We must learn to surround ourselves around those with good intentions who motivate, support, and uplift us. Healthier relationships lead to increased happiness in our lives, so refresh your associates if need be.

If you’re unhappy with your place of employment or need a career change, start thinking about what you want to do. Consider your top skills and talents in the process and research opportunities based on those qualifications. It would be ideal to weigh out the pros and cons of your options to be sure you are making a practical decision overall. Maybe you’re tired of working for others- write out a business plan and focus on starting a small business. Research other successful businesses, such as the one you’d prefer to build, and see what makes that business so unique. Think of ways to make yours more different and unique from the others. Anything is possible, but I suggest keeping your 9-5 until you have fully executed your plan and are off to a great start. You love your employer, but not your position or salary, and you don’t want to quit or start your own business. Consult with your supervisor and see what you can do to get promoted. Maybe you need a few more qualifications, have them point you in the right direction towards a step closer to the top of the company chain.

Being tough on ourselves about our appearance can be a challenge. If you’ve been down about your weight, stop stressing and lose those pounds! Self-motivation is critical because only you can work out for yourself. Create a daily schedule and incorporate a time slot that works best for you to work out. I find early mornings my preferred and most effective time to walk each day. Maybe you aren’t a morning person and prefer to exercise during the afternoon or night- whatever floats your boat, make it happen! Get into a steady routine, and you’ll be losing those pounds in no time. While working out can help us significantly, don’t forget to pay attention to your food intake because what you put into your body matters and affects your overall appearance. Cut back on the unhealthy and greasy foods, midnight snacks, and alcohol (for the drinkers), and watch those inches and pounds shed from your body. Of course, consistency is ideal and vital during this process.

For those experiencing unhappiness due to financial mishaps, I’m not suggesting getting a second job as most people do. More power to those who choose to work multiple jobs- I have done it twice before, and it is beyond exhausting. Yes, you have an additional source of income, but you’re literally working your life away. However, I will suggest better spending habits, saving whatever you can save, seeking a better and higher paying job opportunity, researching and investing in stocks or property, or researching the various sources for additional income. Create a source of income you can generate in your sleep- think smarter, not harder! Sure, it is easier said than done, but it is possible. You could even start a blog and create another source of income. And let’s not forget about starting a business, as I mentioned earlier, that you could start!

This post aims to encourage those currently experiencing a sense of unhappiness in their lives to go out and find happiness. Clearly, I can’t touch base on everything that may cause one to be unhappy, but I know I was able to touch on the main reasons. The principle is to start within one’s self. Learn to stop overworking by listening to your body when it needs a break and rest yourself. Learn to stay away from toxic individuals who do not benefit your life in any shape or form. Learn to seek better professional employment opportunities where your work ethics matter and are appreciated. Learn to stop being hard on yourself when you’re trying your best and already have so much to show. Big or small- overpraise your current accomplishments of life. Those are achievements you worked hard to complete- celebrate them every chance you get! More importantly, learn to put your happiness first. Put yourself first. Love yourself first. Improve your joy and keep it that way, all while living a little!

Much Love Hooters,

-Cherry and the Hoot

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Fun Facts About Me From A-Z

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As we all know, I’m a very Adventurous individual who loves hiking.

I’m beyond proud to be Black.

My second nickname, “CC,” was given by my 7th-grade math teacher.

I’ll go ahead and admit; I’m 28 and afraid of the Dark!

Researching planet Earth and the galaxy is an obsession of mine.

I’m the oldest of Five sisters and three brothers.

It’s hard for my siblings to accept, but I’m Grandpa’s favorite!

Almost everyone loves my Happy-Spirited personality. 

I consider myself an unlicensed Interior Designer and Decorator.

A star was born in June– that star is me of course!

During Karaoke, I feel like a real musician even though I can’t sing.

My motto of life is “Live a Little!” It’s tattooed in my G-Pa’s handwriting.

Mental Health is one of my favorite topics to discuss.

I’m a proud Navy daughter and sister.

Even though I was once afraid of them, I love Owls!

Photography is one of my many talents.

I love chicken Quesadillas from authentic Mexican restaurants.

I accidentally killed my Rabbit by feeding him an apple. 

My height (5’4″) is considered Short; I prefer fun-sized.

Track and Field is my favorite sport. I ran for seven years!

I’m the ONLY person in the WORLD with my UNIQUE name.

Virginia is for Lovers; I’m proud to be from there.

Being surrounded by Water makes me happy.

X-mas music is beyond annoying to me.

My favorite hue has always been Yellow.

I’ve explored numerous Zoos and aquariums in multiple states. 

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Being Taken For Granted

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Although I’m a bubbly spirited soul, at the age of 28, I can safely admit my personal social life is minimal. Besides my grandfather and my mother, I have one actual close friend, and I’m beyond thankful for her. Getting close to individuals is not my “cup of tea” because of past experiences and avoiding unnecessary drama or stress. It is a choice I’ve been content with for years now.

Whether it be friendships or relationships, trusting is a significant concern of mine when it comes to my personal life. I have issues with those wanting my attention for the wrong motives—those who have an opposing agenda within my time—those who lie about their current relationship status or their lives. Wasting my time is something I despise, especially if I’ve chosen to trust someone initially.

I’m not big on welcoming many new people into my “circle” because I hate having to figure them out. I hate getting to know new people all over again for it to be a waste. Yes, I socialize with many, but getting to know them fully is not an option. Therefore, I have the tendency to push people away when I feel as though they’re too interested in me. I’m sure I do this to protect myself after the bs I’ve dealt with in the past.

When I’m interested in someone, I tend to become too caring. Of course, I don’t view it as being “too caring” at that moment, but that is just my personality. I tend to want the best in any and everyone I encounter on a deep and secure level. I uplift those I care about tremendously. I open up to individuals with my life. I’m willing to do just about anything for them. If I have it, they have it. I’ve always been this way, and today I wish I wasn’t.

Making someone a priority in my life isn’t unusual. I feel as though that’s what real friends are for. Opening up with my entire world but barely knowing who someone is, that’s a problem. Putting forth the effort to show I care is natural to me. Caring about each other’s feelings is expected. Considering something as simple as time is key to me. Being upfront about motives and not dragging along dead weight is something I feel needs to be addressed. Communication!

Joking about not having a heart is frequent for me, but the truth is, my heart is gigantic. The problem is, I feel as though I make myself too available for some due to my nature. I begin to care so much I become naive to their intentions. Then, what do you know—they begin to notice and take my kindness for weakness. They begin to play mind games and then try to manipulate and use me. But why when I’ve cared for and supported them so profoundly?

The thought of being used is something I consider a lot when dealing with individuals. If I suspect it, I cut all ties immediately, and the trust issues begin again. I’m okay with helping anyone with anything. What I’m not okay with is them always needing me, knowing they wouldn’t do the same for me. Or even when it’s convenient for them. The sad part, I never look for anything in return because I’m satisfied with their happiness alone. Seeing those I care about happy means the world to me. I’ve noticed being too caring can really mess with your mind.

I hate that I worry about the well-being of others. I hate that I can’t easily let go of those I have so much love for. I hate that I treat those so highly without hesitation. I hate that I’m always interested in their lives and goals. I hate that sometimes I care for and love those more than myself. I hate that I can’t say “no” when I know I should. I hate that I allow those to repeatedly hurt me even though I’m well aware of my worth. I hate that I give those so many chances when I already know what the outcome will be.

I hate that I’ve been taken for granted, but I am now at peace.

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My Fitness Journey: Tears of Joy

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**Originally written on September 9th, 2020

Last week, I happened to wear a shirt I hadn’t worn in almost a year in Las Vegas. It was a coincidence I last wore the shirt in Las Vegas, but I didn’t think anything of it. When I arrived at my hotel room, I decided to look into every mirror to admire my new slimming figure. I was genuinely amazed by my accomplishments, but more importantly, the results of my appearance. My slim neck and face, visible collar bone, thighs not touching or rubbing together, my shape overall- “new body, who dis?” I had to stop and shed a few tears of joy. I hadn’t seen myself this small since the ending of 2017-beginning of 2018. 

Technically, nothing was wrong with my weight gain, and most preferred the “more to love” figure. I wore it well and can honestly say I was never sloppy with it. Unfortunately, I hated the weight gain, but more so because I didn’t cause it. It was caused by anti-depressants prescribed in August 2017. Within four months, I gained nearly 40 pounds and couldn’t understand why. I never ate much throughout my years of life, so it was easy to eliminate food from possible causes. I stopped taking the medications once I noticed the drastic change, and what do you know? I didn’t gain any additional weight. Don’t get me wrong; there is nothing wrong with being curvy- it just wasn’t for me. When you’ve been less than 126 pounds just about your entire life, you become accustomed to it. 

My slim and coke-bottle figure was something I took pride in. Everyone would always tell me, “You’re shaped just like your grandma.” My grandmother was a beautiful, slim, and light-skinned “BAD” woman. A lot of women envied her figure, beauty, fashion, and much more. Hearing those compliments made me proud of my appearance because her pictures were stunning. My mother was even the same size before she began to have more children (after me- haha), and she too looked stunning. Going to the gym and working out wasn’t something I needed to do because I had natural abs for most of my life. Wearing a bra wasn’t something I needed, so I mainly wore them to work. I loved wearing crop tops and was always more than comfortable and confident in two-piece bikinis (I had tons of them being the beach-bum I was). I’m now content and happy with my body and looking forward to the rest of my journey.

I made this post to prove, with hard work and dedication, you can succeed in just about anything you put your mind to! You can’t sit there and complain about what isn’t improving until you start making changes. In the beginning, it may appear as though no changes are occurring. You have to stop running back and forth to the scale. Although I started working-out first, I would suggest starting with clean eating habits. Once you’ve gotten used to eating healthier, you should get a consistent regimen within your work-out schedule. Yes, there was a change in my weight when I first begin my journey, but I wasn’t eating healthy. About two months later, eating cleaner became a habit, and the pounds started to shed quicker and more consistently. 

Believing in yourself is the first step. If you refuse to believe in yourself, you probably will never succeed. Having a great support system is also a plus, but you have to count on yourself before anything! You can do it!

*HOOTER TIP: Water is key… DRINK PLENTY OF WATER!